I had an impromptu Twitter chat on Fat People Sex Positions, specifically in Erotica and Smut, and I wanted to make sure my points were clear and saved on my site. If you want to see the original thread, click here.
Originally, I was just going to do a screenshot of the conversation and load it here but I don’t know if that works for people who have software that reads them blog posts so I am going to post the transcription here instead. Going to apologize ahead of time if it comes out a little bit jangled.
Fat People Sex Positions Tweet Storm
Doing research for an article on fat peeps and erotica. One Twitter friend said they would like comfortable sex positions mentioned. Here is my thread on being fat, having sex, and sex positions… #FatAndSexy #FatActivism #AmWritingErotica #Erotica #BBW
First – @Artists_Ali has a fucking fantastic video answering questions about sex positions, libido, and fat people. Go watch it. Pre-requisite, required viewing as far as I’m concerned. Also follow her Twitter because she inspires me daily
[Artist Ali is the amazing person behind Ok2BeFat on YouTube.]
Oh yea here’s the link to the video ?
First. This will be said by me a lot I can only speak from experience and research. I am a fat, cis woman, bi, polyamorous, kinkster with joint disfigurements that cause me pain and I’m married and I’ve birthed a kid. This all plays a roll in how I face life.
[I know I said First twice, oops]
Second, I’m POSITIVE someone will view what I say differently. If you do, feel free to comment but know I do not respond to bullies and will report/block without banter. #BoundariesAreNecessary #IGiveNoFucks
Ok down to the #FatSex! As said in the video – any position that is comfortable to you and your partner(s) is great! Do that! Figure out through experimentation and open communication. Moving forward I’m talking specifically about fat sex in erotica.
When writing fat people having sex, hell when we’re doing anything at all, remember that our bodies are always with us and effect how we interact and experience the world.
Our bodies will of course effect our sex lives! Not necessarily in bad ways! I know, shocker??
Some fat people will have an easier time than others in certain positions of course and not just because they are fat. I have joint issues so that effects my positioning, for example. Same with Mr Faust and many other partners. Consider the size and preferences of partners
Example: Mr Faust has a belly and so do I. Sitting in his lap with our bellies between us does make it difficult to angle his cock up into me. I cannot tell you if this would be an issue if I was with a man with a flat belly but it could be considered.
The strength of a partner that is lifting a fat partner is also a consideration. Strong partners without joint issues may lift your partner with ease. Otherwise there are tools we can use like props and handles for shower sex, etc.
Example Before Mr Faust’s knees got so bad, he could lift me with ease and toss me around. He has done labor work and lifted weights for years so this was never an issue despite my weight.
That being said! Weight and fat are not always synonymous 175lbs might not sound very fat and perfect liftable and thin unless you consider that on a 4’11” frame (me when I met Mr Faust.
When writing a fat person fucking also consider how their body might move during sex. You may or may not want to account for every jiggle and slap but they do happen.
#FatSex Horror Story
The big fear for many fat peeps is being on top or, horror of horror, face sitting.
Oh my fucking gods…please do not be scared to put fat people on top I fucking beg you!!!!
If the bottom can’t breath have em give the top a smack on the ass or something. I was scared for years to sit on a partners face by I’ve had partners fucking love it. Fat be it from me to keep them from their wet fantasy’s – fat be it from you to not write because you’re scared
[I meant Far be it from…not Fat, but it worked out it seems]
Taking a break to get a drink and talk to my SIL Please ask me your questions or give your fat erotica suggestions. What’s your favorite Fat Erotica Story?
Want to also recommend @TheNudeWriter and her body positivity project. She collects nude anonymous pics to share with the world and show the beauty in all bodies – including fat bodies.
When I get my 2nd wind I’ll be back here and talk a lil about kink as a fat person. Inspired by all my fat friends that didn’t think they could be tied up, wear a costume (school girl uniform), etc. they learned otherwise
Fat People Sex Positions Part 2
Ok I’m back. My favorite erotica sub genre is BDSM. I do NOT expect full realism in smut but I would love to see some fat peeps getting kinky in smut and I run into so many people that will shy away from writing it or fetishize the fat.
Y’all into fat fetish, I am so not here to yuck your yum but it is not on my feel good list. I’m also not into humil so I won’t get into that. You’ll have to find someone else into talking about writing Feeder/Feedee Piggy play Etc. I’m here to talk D/s, bondage, and fat
Lot of fat peeps worry about being able to participate in rope play and bondage because they fear their weight will be an issue. There is also a lack of representation which is of course the problem all around. Yes fat people can be tied up! We can be bound, beat, etc.
Check out Confessions of a Fat Rope Slut by @Aemok
The point is you can totally write fat people into bdsm erotica and it be real as fuck. You can write about our plump flesh trussed up and all the space we have for marks, etc.
We fat people are delicious fuckers to write about so do it!!!
Write us in all the positions!
I’m playing around with making a twitter chat on Fat people and smut, erotica, sex, etc a thing. I’m really bad sometimes with keeping online commitments though – something I’m trying to do better with. So I’ve been back and forth on this. Is this something you’d be interested in? Please comment below if so.